It's the holidays and I'm finding more and more each year that gift buying isn't as simple as it used to be. When my children were little, it was so easy to know which toys would make their faces light up. Now they are young adults and teens, and I want to give them gifts that will put a smile on their faces and be something meaningful that they love.
The older I get, the more value I place on time making memories and connection. The "stuff" just doesn't excite me anymore. It feels heavy and creates physical and emotional clutter. I lean towards wanting to simplify everything.
One of my children recently asked me to do a session for them to help clear stress and fears. I, of course, was excited because I know how powerful energy healing sessions are for people, and to have my children ask for a session makes my heart happy! Part of the session is muscle testing affirmations that indicate where subconscious blocks are causing stress and fear. We had an awkward moment when the following affirmation came up: "I let go of childhood trauma." I paused, and every mistake I've made as a mother came rushing to my mind. I took a breath and said, "Um, sorry, that's probably my fault." Yes, awkward for me, but this child of mine just chuckled. I realized in that moment that there wasn't anger or blame towards me, just an openness to the moment, and a desire to clear limiting beliefs blocking success.
I have thought about that moment several times since. I realized that the best gifts I can offer my children are:
#1 cleaning up my own emotional clutter (so it's not spilling onto them as fear, lack of patience, or negativity of any kind)
#2 recognizing my worth (because after all, we all see ourselves in our parents, and if I value myself, they are going to know they are worth valuing as well)
#3 discovering my purpose and dreams and living in alignment and integrity to that understanding (if they see me going for it, they will know they can dream big, go for it, create whatever they want, know they have something to offer and have an important place in the world)
Am I a perfect parent? Nope! Not even close. I mess up all the time.
I try to be better every day though. I say sorry when I need to. I ask forgiveness when I need to. I don't blame others for how I feel or for things not working out. I take responsibility for how I want to show up in my life and for what I want to create. And most of all, I rely on God. A lot. I hope my children are watching me...even if they don't understand me yet. One day, they will have a moment where they know that they have a choice. A choice of how to show up in their lives. A choice to be happy or blame someone else for whatever. And in that moment, I hope they think to themselves... "if mom can do it, I can do it!" And in that moment I hope they will choose to go have a great life, because they know they are worth it and they know that the truth is that they really can have a great life!
I'll never forget the gift I received the day of that session with my child - a deeper understanding of the best gifts I can give my children.
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