Do you ever have those days when you feel a little "off?" This feeling is usually accompanied by a flood of negative self talk, self-doubt, and finding reasons to be angry. If you choose to let the dam of negativity break, you may find yourself drowning in frustration, as one thing after another goes wrong.
I woke up feeling that way this morning! It's strange because I’ve had an amazing week and then BAM, just like that, I felt all out of sorts. The head talk is ridiculous. Seriously. I work on my inner self ALL THE TIME!! How can I possibly feel hit this hard?
Honestly, when it comes right down to it, it doesn't matter why. What really matters is what my next choice is. I know that how I choose to respond is going to affect my ENTIRE day.
Have you heard of the book The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks? If not, I highly recommend it. It contains a perfect description of what I experienced this morning and an explanation of WHY, after having an amazing, joyful, abundant week, I could wake up feeling so "off" and in a battle with my head and heart. What happened?
The upper limit, that's what!
Our subconscious belief system is constantly monitoring (controlling, really) the amount of time we feel good or are successful. If we have something really great happen, and it is out of the "comfort zone" of our subconscious belief system, then something from out of the blue knocks you back to that old, outdated, limiting belief system that subconsciously feels more comfortable.
I experience this all of the time as I am building relationships, building my business, and improving my health and wellness. I coach my clients through it often. Why does it come up so often? Because when a person is growing and stretching and reaching and achieving higher and higher goals, the subconscious belief system must stretch and grow as well to accept higher and higher levels of happiness and success. We have to be aware that the sudden jolt of feeling "off" is NOT a failure; it's simply a growing pain.
So, how is it possible to get through those upper limit moments and not be stopped on the road to big success? I would love to share a few ideas that help me:
#1 - SLOW DOWN and WAKE UP! When negative head talk hits, it comes in fast and it hits you like a ton of bricks. It will put you in a mental daze or coma, disconnecting you from every truth about yourself. Make yourself take a step back and wake up to what is happening. DO NOT let your subconscious take over. STAY AWAKE to the truth - the truth about your worth, the truth about your purpose, the truth about the direction you are going, the truth that this is just a moment and NOT a reflection of who you are. Breathe and stay awake!
#2 - Call someone in your life who knows your heart - God is a good place to start, but also your soul friends will be more than willing to share God's truth about you. Ask them to remind you of the truth of who you are. Many times your upper limit hit may come from a comment that someone else makes, or someone not showing up for you. When it comes from an outside experience, RESIST the temptation to make it about what another person said or did. That experience only happened to help you. I know, it sounds counter-intuitive. Trust me on this. Resist the temptation to be distracted by anger and blame. Resist the temptation to talk all about how you were wronged. STAY AWAKE...anger and blame put us in a mental daze quicker than anything. Anger and blame hide the truth of who we are. Breathe and stay awake!
#3 - Do something productive. Put on some inspirational music so those words are filling your mind instead of the negative junk trying to take over. Read something inspirational, journal, go for a walk, pull some weeds in your yard, or do a kind deed for someone who has been popping into your thoughts recently. What I did this morning was clean up some clutter in my house that I have been meaning to get to. Cleaning up clutter is so symbolic! I ALWAYS feel better after cleaning up something I've been avoiding in my house...like the stove top or a pile of papers sitting on my desk, or that one drawer in the house that collects everything. Keep breathing and stay awake!
#4 - Use essential oils to support your emotions. doTERRA’s Emotional Aromatherapy blends are AMAZING! Diffuse them and wear them throughout the day. Here is a blend called Soothe the Soul created by my friend Desiree Mangandog. You can find this blend and many others in her new book, I am Fabulous (go to edgesuccess.com to purchase).
Here's the recipe:
2 Clary Sage
6 White Fir
*Place in a 5ml roller bottle. Fill the rest with fractionated coconut oil. Apply to inside of elbow creases, chest and the midline of the belly.
#5 - Energy Work. Why? Because sometimes those hidden subconscious beliefs won't move on their own, no matter how strong your willpower is to feel better, no matter how many times you tell yourself you’re going to let it go, no matter how many times you repeat affirmations, and no matter how much essential oil you use. Sometimes we just have to take that next step and allow someone else to help. How will you know if you need energy work to get past your upper limit moment? You will know if you have tried everything but you are still hanging on to that head talk, you still feel "off," you find yourself eating when you're not really hungry, you’re procrastinating, or you feel short tempered. Those are all indicators that you could use some extra support.
My team and I are here to help with energy work, oils, compassion and love. Are you ready for some extra support? Click here to find out all of the different options you have for working with us.
You are worthy and deserving of being happy and of having life go well.
We all have a choice to feel like victims or to choose love & light. How will you stop the flood of negativity?
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