I recently listened to an inspirational webinar by Gabby Bernstein and she verbalized this amazing concept that I have had in my heart and soul for a few years, ever since I became an energy coach...I just never had the words to explain it like she did! It's brilliant; it encompasses perfectly my deepest desires and my sole purpose for being on this earth.
It is the ONLY resolution that really ever matters.
Every year January comes around and we take what is often a painful inventory of all the areas of our lives where we are falling short, lacking, or failing in some way. Sound familiar? Then, we make that list of every behavior we want to change and every good habit we want to implement this year. Guess what? Most statistics show that people last about two weeks before they revert back to how they lived life the year before, and the year before that, and the year before that.
So, how is it possible to change this pattern of making resolutions and giving up so quickly? It's simple. Make the one resolution that really matters. When you do this and are really committed to this ONE, yes, only ONE resolution, then you will find that everything else, and I mean everything else, will begin to fall into place.
What is this resolution, you ask? How could one resolution be the answer to everything else in my life falling into place, you ask? It's simple. Drumroll please...
Make the resolution to heal the root cause or the subconscious belief underneath the behaviors you long to change.
Think about it - we have behaviors that have been with us for years. Things like overeating, self-medicating with alcohol or other substances, being late, being disorganized, procrastinating, getting into & staying in relationships that aren't healthy (this includes romantic and other relationships), overspending, being cheap, losing your temper, wasting time... the list can go on and on.
The truth is that sheer willpower can only take us so far. Then what happens? Boom! We get triggered and fall off the wagon. Gay Hendricks refers to this as "the upper limit." It's the wall you hit when your subconscious belief system has stretched as far as it can go. When you hit that limit, the head talk gate opens and in comes a flood of thoughts such as: who do you think you are? You're not good enough; you are so far gone - why even try? Nobody wants what you have to offer; nobody cares what you have to say; people are going to think you are pushy, nosy, bossy, overbearing, sales-y, dumb...and just like that, you are back to the "old you." You start making the same choices that left you feeling stuck, defeated, overwhelmed and most of all, deeply out of alignment with who you really are underneath the behaviors and negative head talk.
Why does this keep happening? It keeps happening because somewhere along the way in your early development, you had experiences where you perceived yourself as less than who you really are. Maybe a teacher at school yelled at you; maybe your parents fought a lot or didn't communicate at all; maybe you were burdened with a lot of responsibilities at a really young age; maybe someone called you fat or ugly or stupid on the playground or in your own home. Maybe you were ignored; maybe you were controlled; maybe you got lost at the store when you were two years old; maybe you suffered abuse. No matter what our past is, no matter how perfect or imperfect our parents and teachers and friends were, we picked up some negative beliefs about ourselves that need to heal. This is the truth, and it leads to the only resolution that really ever matters: healing.
Healing the core beliefs that hide underneath overeating, addiction, procrastination, bad relationships, the inability to make or keep money, and lack of motivation is the ONLY way to change your behavior. You MUST begin to heal the beliefs that fuel the behaviors.
This is a process, and really is our life's most important work. It is the most important commitment you make to yourself. It is the most loving gift you give not only to yourself, but to everyone already in your life and everyone who ever will come into your life.
Where do you start? That depends on how committed you are. How fed up are you? How badly do you really want things to be different?
In all honesty, I have to ask myself these questions every day. As much personal work that I do on a consistent basis, I still find myself making excuses and blaming. I am constantly monitoring my head talk. I am constantly practicing waking up to my truth on deeper and deeper levels.
I can't do it alone. I realized that many years ago when I was introduced to my first energy coach & mentor. At that time, it was difficult to invest the money. I didn't have a lot of extra. However, I knew I was at a point that if I didn't do something, I would fall into depression and be stuck forever.
I am a firm believer that if you want it bad enough and are truly ready, you will find a way. I did. If I can do it, anyone can.
My life completely changed course the moment I decided that I had had enough and would find a way to invest in getting some help so that I could heal.
Once I made the commitment to myself, to God, and to my coach, my life took on new meaning, new joy, and new success. Most importantly of all, I discovered that there was divine truth and worth within me all along. I discovered that it's not about one prayer, one session, one book, or one seminar. I discovered that healing is a lifelong, joyful process. Yes, joyful! I now see my life as a work of art that I am in charge of creating. I am always in the process of letting go on deeper and deeper levels. Any time I feel stuck in my relationships, with my weight, with my business, with my head talk, with my moods, etc., I value that experience! Each experience provides a signal to me to let me know that I am ready to heal something on a deeper level. Each time I have to choose if I'm ready, really ready, to let it go. If I choose to let go of the struggle, healing comes quickly and easily because I make the call to my coach and mentor; I also meditate and pray and get even more connected spiritually. I choose to be willing to forgive myself, others, and past experiences in order to make room for healing.
You can choose to heal, too. You can make the one resolution that really matters, the one that will allow everything else in your life to fall into place.
I am here to help you and guide you through your transformation. If not me, choose someone you can work with. You are not alone. The support you need is here for you now. You just have to choose in. You just have to decide that you want it bad enough to make it work. You may have to be inconvenienced for a while to get the results. The happiness, the emotional freedom, the personal power and confidence, the love, the success, and the healing is all buried under pain or negative core beliefs. It is all there for you. Is it time to uncover it? Is it time to live life free of the things that keep you captive?
It's easier to uncover than you think. Your head talk will have you believe otherwise. DO. NOT. LISTEN. Just take the first step. Trust yourself. Trust the process. Trust God. He's got you. We've got you. You've got this.
With lots of love & light,
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